Break ups are something many couples go through when in a relationship. Sometimes they are bitter, harsh, painful, and even unwanted. Then sometimes it's the best option. Now some people can handle a break-up and then some can't. Here are a few situations of breakups.

1. Both agree on break up and move on
2. One doesn't agree and doesn't want to move on
3. One doesn't agree but eventually moves on
4. Both don't agree but don't know how to make it work to be together

Today I want to talk about #2 and #4. Lets start with #4 where both want to stay together but only have the option of breaking up. Now these types of breakups usually happen because there are problems in the relationship that neither know how to fix and it causes the relationship to end even though they really don't want to break up. Now the positive side to this situation is that the couple wants to stay together. The bad part is that they think they can't get over their problems or don't have a choice but to end it.

Here are two good examples of both.

You have been with your partner for a while and both of you are really good people. But at some point, your partner starts using drugs. The love you have for each other is strong but sometimes addictions can/will destroy relationships. In this case, the drug addiction has become so bad that it is destroying the relationship. And we all know that rehab doesn't work for everybody.

Eventually you get discouraged to where you have to break up even though you love each other. Bad things happen to good people. And drug addiction can be one of them. In this case both want to make it work but just can't find a way to get over this problem, drug addiction. There supposed to be a solution to every problem, so the best thing to do is find that solution.

If both really want to avoid break-up, they need to try every option they can before ending relationship. For my example it would be best if the person not using supported the person with the drug addiction to get help and get clean. One needs to support and the other needs to want to get help and end that problem. Learning what the problems are, find solutions for the problems, and wanting to stay together can avoid a break up that neither want.

Now for the painful unwanted break up situation #4. One doesn't want to break up and doesn't want to move on. There are lot's of times where you see someone breaking up with their partner leaving one of them devastated and hurt. They don't want to break-up and want to make it work. These types of break-ups usually end with wanting the ex back.

For an example, your partner breaks up with you for whatever reason. You don't want this. You find it hard to move on and want to try to get him/her back. The problem with these types of breakups is that one wants it and one doesn't. So this leaves you with some options.

1. Give up, leave it alone, let time heal you, move on.
2. Talk to your ex, ask them why, see if you can reason with them and try to make it work.
3. Hope that they want you back.
4. Make them want you back.

Now I know you may be wondering about some of these options, specifically #4. How can I make them want me back? For that question you need to visit "How to Get Your ex Back".

Unwanted breakups are hard to deal with but you have to do whats best for you. If you both think you can make it work, go for it. If you are left hurt and want to make it work, try the options stated. Just don't become an obsessive stalker.

Long distance relationships can be a problem alone. The key problems many couples face in this type of relationship is the issues of trust and wanting to closer to them. Of the two issues, wanting to be closer to your partner isn't so much of the problem even though you know your relationship would be a lot better if you were closer to your partner.

Being close to your partner and doing things that couples normally do such as going out on dates, staying with each other/spending the nights, and just having that "comfortable closeness" where you know that they are close enough for you where you wouldn't have to worry about things couples worry about in long distance relationships.

The most common worry would be the issue of being faithful while being so far away. In order to make a long distance relationship work, you need to have two key factors, trust and communication. Communication shouldn't be a problem in these days because there are many means of communication such as email, mail, phone, etc.

Trust is usually the main problem because you don't know what your partner is doing so far away. As you all know, all relationships need to have that trust level in order to work properly avoiding any problems associated with lack of trust. What many couples don't realize when in a long distance relationship is that if you could trust your partner while being close, you shouldn't have a problem trusting them being far away.

Here is what I mean. Lets say you have been living a block away from your partner for 6 months and you both have been going steady and having a decent relationship. Your partner just told you that they have been offered a scholarship to a college in another state. Now the normal reaction would be if you think it will work out them being so far away.

Now think about it, your partner has been living a block away. This still gives them a chance to cheat. Even if you are living in the same house, they could still cheat. So it really doesn't make a difference how close or far away they are. If you know they genuinely want to be with you and will remain faithful no matter what or where, your relationship should be fine.

Having that trust in your relationship will ease your worry of being cheated on. Now things do happen in long distance relationships where everything is fine until both partners are separated and one or both start to feel lonely and have to fight temptation. This can be a problem because you or them may want that loneliness to go away or give in to temptation. This is where you realize how strong your relationship is with each other.

The best thing to do in a long distance relationship is to communicate your feelings to your partner and trust that the relationship will work and being faithful isn't an issue.